CFHS code : HT56

Parish : Holy Trinity

Inscription : In Loving Memory of my devoted husband THEODORE THOMAS STOAKLEY d 18 Sept 1913 aged 78 also HARRIET ELIZABETH STOAKLEY widow of above 1st May 1930 aged 81

Monument : Headstone/Kerb stones

Above information from Cambridge Family History Society Survey

The monument in February 2022.


This headstone stands 1 row to the east of the path just past the bend to the north in the south east corner of the parish of Holy Trinity. The inscription of metal letters is intact but this area is subject to ivy and bramble growth so not always visible. We did not uncover the kerbstones.


In Loving Memory Of my devoted husband THEODORE THOMAS STOAKLEY who departed this life September 18th 1913 aged 78 years

His end was peace

 Also HARRIET ELIZABETH STOAKLEY  widow of the above who died  May 1st 1930 aged 81 years

Theodore Thomas Stoakley (c.1834 – 18 September 1913)

Theodore was the eldest son of Frederick and Anne (née Lupson), and grew up at Coronation Street. His father worked as a gardener and aged 17 Theodore was working as an errand boy.   He later went to work for Pembroke College and in 1861/1871  was the college under-porter and lived at the college. Theodore married widow Harriet Pashley on 13 September 1878 at St. Paul’s church in Hampstead.  By the time he married he was porter of Pembroke College and the couple lived at college.  He worked at Pembroke for sixty years and ‘won the esteem of all its members and staff by his painstaking and trustworthy work. In fact his absorption in his college work was a characteristic. His period of service dated back to the time when there was no gas in the college, oil lamps being the source of illumination’. He was said to have been very interested in horticulture and ‘his pride was that the front court of Pembroke was the admiration both of residents and visitors to Cambridge’.

For the last fifteen months of his life he was not in good health after undergoing  an operation for ‘lung trouble’. He was taken out in a bath chair, but for the last six to eight months was bedbound.  The cause of death was reported as ‘lung trouble and some senile decay’. His funeral on 23 September 1913 was held at Pembroke College Chapel. The Master, bursar and librarian of Pembroke attended, as did the porters of other colleges and his coffin was carried by the under porters of the College.

Harriet Elizabeth Stoakley (née McDonald) (1849 – 1 May 1930)

Harriet was born in Greenwich and was the daughter of Donald and Harriet (née Stock). She was baptised on 30 June 1850 in Ashwick, Somerset (her mother’s home village) but grew up in Croydon where her father was a house painter. She married Robert Gathercole Pashley (1832-1871) on 30 November 1868 at St. Mary’s Church, Islington.  Robert was a ‘pilot’ (sea navigation)/master mariner and in April 1871 the couple were living at Linden House in Deptford. Robert died later that year and was buried in Lewisham. She married Theodore Stoakley in  1878. Harriet died aged 81 years old at 27 Panton Street.



Newspaper archives

Parish burial records transcribed by CFHS

by Claire Martinsen

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Harriet Elizabeth Stoakley; Theodore Thomas Stoakley
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